Positive is Lighter Than Negative
By Melonie Dodaro
In the world of diet and fitness, positive thoughts are extremely important. Many people have very strong emotions and internal programming that’s connected with their physical appearance. Past experiences, either positive or negative, create a stream of dialogue that runs through each person’s head constantly. The tone and content of those thoughts are determining factors in reaching your ideal weight and fitness goals.
If you’ve never used affirmations, you might push them aside as something silly. After all, it’s a little self-indulgent to say things like, “I love myself” or “I believe in myself” out loud to no one, isn’t it? NOT AT ALL! In a way, every thought you have and every word you say is an affirmation of some kind. All our self-talk or inner dialogue is a constant stream of affirmations. The only reason that positive affirmations might seem awkward at first is that so many of us are so habitually negative in our thoughts and words toward ourselves, it feels strange to say something positive!
We’re continually affirming subconsciously with our words and thoughts, and this flow of affirmations colors our life experience in every moment—which makes it all the more urgent that the messages be positive.
Our beliefs are learned through patterns that we’ve developed since childhood. Many of these beliefs still work well for us, but others may now be working against us. These dysfunctional beliefs may be sabotaging us from achieving what we want. For example, your parents may have rewarded you with ice cream or some other food-related treat for passing certain milestones when you were young. Though that system of rewards worked and served you in your youth, it set up a habit of food as a reward, which can be detrimental in adulthood.
One way to overcome this embedded behavior is through the use of positive daily affirmations…short positive statements targeted at a specific subconscious set of beliefs, to alter and replace negative beliefs with self-nurturing beliefs. These thoughts and ideas are of your choosing, whereas many of the thoughts and beliefs from childhood were not. It’s important that everything we say and think is a positive affirmation.
The more determined you are to exhibit changes in your life, the better affirmations will work for you. Repeating positive affirmations forces the subconscious into one of two reactions: resistance or acceptance. The bigger the issue you’re trying to change in your life, the more likely it is that you’ll experience resistance; that is, your own subconscious will “argue” with you when you state your positive affirmations. Conversely, if you experience a sense of joy and well-being as you state your affirmations, your mind is instinctively responding to something it believes to be true. When you feel this emotion, you know your affirmations are working.
Repeating your affirmations with conviction and passion will weaken even the strongest resistance. Once the resistance is broken, your subconscious will begin to accept the new, self-nurturing beliefs. The effect can be startling, and things can change very quickly as the dysfunctional beliefs are identified and replaced by your own new inner truth!
If you find yourself experiencing serious resistance or have identified an area of trauma in your life, and your weight and health are evidence of that trauma, it’s strongly recommended to seek professional counseling to first resolve the underlying issue. The journey you’re undertaking will assist you in letting go of the past, but having proper support around you as you go through the process will make it that much easier. As positive thoughts replace negative ones, you’ll find that positive change comes easily and naturally.
Melonie Dodaro is a weight loss expert, author and speaker. Her approach to weight loss incorporates showing people how to master their mind-body connection for lasting results. To learn more tips and techniques like the ones included in this article please click here: www.MindBodyFX.com.