Focus on Your Ideal Weight

By Melonie Dodaro

The idea that we create our own reality is downright painful for many, or at least distasteful. Many people honestly believe they have no choices, and even those who do believe they can choose often beat themselves up for past choices they’ve made—diet failures, lack of fitness—the results of which they are living now.

We’re totally responsible for whatever manifests in our lives—all of it!

This again begs the question, why would we create bodies that are overweight, fatigued, stressed out and not physically fit? Why would we choose to do any of that to ourselves? No one creates these things deliberately, yet we’ve all done it at one time or another. The key to changing is to understand exactly HOW we do it! What is the process of creation, of manifestation?

Many people have heard of the Law of Attraction, which basically states that you get what you focus on. Unfortunately, many people who think they are focusing on creating their ideal weight are really focusing on pounds. For example, have you ever set a goal, perhaps even written it down, to achieve a certain clothing size? Did you then spend your days constantly hopping on the scale? Worrying over each pound? Continually calculating how many pounds had to disappear and in what time frame? While your goal was to achieve a certain clothing size, you spent most of your time focusing on pounds and that, therefore, is what you attracted!

If you think in terms of the number of pounds you need to reduce to reach that goal, say 20, then all your energy and thought processes will be focused on losing those 20 pounds. Your subconscious mind won’t think in terms of losing or gaining, it only fixates on the fact that 20 pounds is the goal. If, however, you focus on the clothing size and imagine yourself wearing a size 10—how it feels to put on size 10 clothes, eating as a person who already wears a size 10—then your mind will focus on becoming a size 10. The same holds true for your ideal weight. Let’s say you want to weigh 140 pounds. The key is not to concentrate on how many fewer pounds you need to weigh to successfully attain that goal; the key is to imagine yourself as already weighing 140 pounds, thinking as you would if you were 140 pounds, and making the food choices that a 140-pound person makes.

See it, believe it, feel it, be it. It’s a simple concept, but quite out of the norm for most people.

As we mature, we all have experiences that shape who we are and what we believe. These experiences may be good or bad, but each event causes us to make a decision about what we believe, and that decision, in turn, affects how we live our lives from that point forward. There are belief systems or programs set in place at a very young age that affect and alter the way we see the world. For example, if you were constantly told to clean your plate, that habit may carry into adulthood. If you were encouraged and praised for good grades rather than playing sports, you may have decided that intelligence is more important than being physically fit. If you were hurt in a relationship or lonely as a child, you may have decided that you can’t trust other people and found that additional weight was a way to keep them away. These belief systems and programs that were set in place when we were children persist through our lives. They affect our attitudes and feelings toward food and overall health, which then manifest in our lives through actions and behaviors that produce the results we see.

You can see how events we experienced as children are carried forward as beliefs into adulthood. It’s been said that 80% of what a child decides about himself is in place by the time that child is 4 years old. From the ages 4 to 8, another 10% of that child’s beliefs are constructed. By the age of 18, 95% of what we believe about ourselves has been formed and produces the perspective from which we view and make sense of our world. As we all have had different experiences, we all see the world slightly differently. This means we don’t necessarily see things as they are; we perceive them through the filter of our beliefs. Thus, we create our own version of reality.

Overweight people tend to focus on their inability to reduce weight, thus attracting more weight and creating belief systems within themselves that they are overweight. In other words, they think of themselves as fat, and therefore they become so. Why do you think people who are overweight all their lives tend to produce children who are also overweight? Or, why do you think wealthy people often raise children who continue to attract wealth? Are these groups of people different? Absolutely not; in fact, in most ways they are the same. One big difference is their mindset.

You can trick your mind into thinking whatever it is you want to think. You simply have to be aware of your thoughts and their context. Just as poverty can be a state of mind, so can obesity. Anyone who is morbidly obese can choose to become fit and healthy and succeed, but it must be a conscious and sincere choice. You must first put in place a decision to have a healthy and abundant mindset. Even if you can’t immediately change where you live, work, or play, you can immediately change your perspective of the world. By doing this, you create the desire and passion needed to aggressively pursue the healthy life you deserve.

About the Author

Melonie Dodaro is a weight loss expert, author and speaker. Her approach to weight loss incorporates showing people how to master their mind-body connection for lasting results. To learn more tips and techniques like the ones included in this article please click here:

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